How is a wedding done in India and what do the girls side and the boys side have to do?
Avneet P*** asked:
I might have to go to India for my cousin’s wedding and I wanted to know what each side does in the wedding. We are punjabi and Sikhs’.
I might have to go to India for my cousin’s wedding and I wanted to know what each side does in the wedding. We are punjabi and Sikhs’.
October 24th, 2008 at 11:11 am
Lillian
It is really quite simple. The girls practically do all the work. First comes the haldi rasam. That’s when the girls side gets to together to put haldi on the girl. Then comes the mendi rasam. All the girls and women from the girls side get together and out on mendi (henna). After that come the marriage which means Yay! The ribbon cutting ceremony. That when the boy’s side and the girls side get together for the first time! The boy’s have to cut the ribbon in order to get to the bride. The boy’s side usually take a couple things that belong to the girls of the girl’s side. It’s pretty fun actually. The boy’s side is fun to but they don’t do as much things as the girl’s side. They do the haldi,shagun, (by the way shagun is also a ceremony) and also the ribbon. Well i spent much time working on this so i hope it helps. Best of luck!!! =)
October 25th, 2008 at 10:23 pm
Audrey
Well I have only attended 2 weddings in India, but it is really fun and easy. First, you get together with your relatives and have a cand path for the wedding. Then a day after or two is when you do the haldi rasam which is when you put haldi on the bride or groom and eat the rice that is special because they say if you eat it you will get married fast. Also at the haldi rasam the bride or groom’s mom will perform it. A few days after, you will do the henna ceremony where you decorate the bride’s hand with henna(if you are from the bride’s side). The next day, you will invite the bride/groom’s family over for the ring ceremony which is pretty much when the 2 sides of the family get to meet each other and when the bride and groom put their engagement rings on each other’s fingers. After a few days you will invite all the ladies of your family to the lady sangeeth. At the lady sangeeth, all the ladies will sing songs and eat sweets. A few days after, you will invite all your relatives and everyone who is going to attend the wedding to the jago. At the jago, you will dance, eat, and walk around the pind with a jago on some of the ladies’ head. Aftter that is the marriage and you know what happens there. Well good luck.
October 28th, 2008 at 5:46 pm
George
ok. i answer.
There are different communities in india. The wedding will be celebrated according to the communities and religion. First, i will describe some communities.
kannada wedding.. one the day before the wedding, turmeric is applied to the bride as well as the groom in their respective homes. one the wedding day a puja in mandap will be done. Then the marriage. punjabi wedding…the sangeeth ceremony is an integral part of the wedding rituals. Both families and relatives, friends will attend the sangeeth session…telugu is with the pendikoothuru ceremony..means oil bathe. Then wedding with chanting manthras from the vedas by an acharya. Bengali wedding where in the day before the marriage the bride and groomoffer a puja to their ancestors. this is called vridhi. Gujarathi.. The griha shanthi is a significant puja that is conducted at the both the bride’s home as well as the groom’s. then marriage after rituals. muslim wedding..on the ev of the wedding day, a mehendi ceremony is held at the bride’s place. The mehendi will be applied in hands, feets of the girl. christian wedding..when the bride arrives at the church, the best man welcomes her with a kiss on both cheeks and gives her a bouquet of flowers. The couple then walks down the aisle with the wedding procession in tow. The priest will conduct the ceremony. Hindu wedding..The hindu traditions vary from state to state but they have most rituals in common. The traditional hindu wedding has a brahmin priest officiating and conducting the ceremonies. The priest chants songs and guest shower the rice and other grains over the couple. The ceremony is conducted next to holy fire and the bride and groom exchange garlands and rings. The kanyadaanam is when the bride’s father gives away the girl to the groom. Tamil wedding..on the day prior to the wedding, the panda kaal muhurtham is perfored. This is to invoke the blessings of the family deity to ensure that the wedding goes off well. The naandi ceremony involves honouring some brahmins with offerings and sweets. The brahmins are invited to the embody the souls of the ancestors of the bride and the groom. The families ask for their blessings before starting of the wedding rituals. more families conduct this ceremony the day before the marriage. The mangala snanam..means sacred bathe is the propitious and purifying bath that the bride and groom must have in their respective homes at dawn on the wedding day. Mostly in the wedding place. Before bath they are daubed with oil and a mixture of turmeric and kumkum. In Brahmin wedding, the above will be followed. Then after some pujas kaasi yatra where the couple will be in a swing with singing several wedding songs. This is very important occassion. Then marriage. Generally, in brahmins marriage all marriage expenditure will be borne by the girls side and the betrothal expenditure by the boys side. The other communities, the betrothal expenditure by the girls side and wedding expenditure by the boys side. ok?
October 29th, 2008 at 5:36 am
Denise
OMG!! my name is Ravneet!! lol, and my cousin’s name is Avneet, lol, but yea, even though ive lived all my life in america, ive been to like….3 indian weddings, and its a long process, there is when they are taking 4 rounds around the Guru Granth Sahib, and they also hav sangeet, and stufff,, there is also this one custom where the younger sisters of the bride steal the groom’s shoes for money…or wutever… im srry but thatz all i can remember, lol, hope i helped